So, the last couple of weeks in my life has been crazy. To be honest - our economy SUCKS big time. You know, I remember a time where if you needed a job, you could find work, but because of how bad the economy is - everywhere you go - they are downsizing or just not hiring because they cannot afford more worked (even if they need them).
Well, here I am - a college student - home for the summer and I am having the crappiest time trying to find a job. Also - I am the type of person who likes to have things to do - i HATE sitting around on my butt and doing nothing...but that is what I have to do because of this stupid economy.
Now what I find funny is Obama promised change - do I see change yet? No - I see more and more people not being able to have jobs. This is sad, can no one solve the mess our economy is in?
Now - for the next thing on my mind.
Relationships. Something that I know a thing or two about and something I get asked to help my friends out a lot.
The trend I see in all the questions I get asked lately is - How do I make my relationship not all about the physical? This is such a sad reality, but a lot of relationships are based around physical attraction and that should not be what it is all about.
The biggest reason I believe that relationships have taken this trend is because of the media. It is not a secret that in every form of media - physical attraction sells and everyone gets to be bombared by it, even if they do not want.
So - the natrual thing to do is go along with the trend. How many times have I heard a friend say they were losing the relationship because they weren't giving what their boyfriend/girlfriend wanted. Too many.
For me, relationships are ALWAYS less complicated when physical relations stay at a minimum. Hugging, Kissing, Cuddling, Holding Hands...these are all find ways to show a person you care about them while dating them.
Sadly - these things don't seem to be enough - people are left wanting more... Touching, Trying to turn the other person on...all the way down to sex. Sex I believe should be saved for marriage. From a problem a friend shared with me- They had sex after dating for a "long" time and they thought they were in love, well three months later after adding sex into the mix, the relationship fell apart and my friend was left heartbroken and scared. I never want to see that happen again, but I know it will.
Sex can put so much pressure on a relationship, but that is because people are taking it out of its wonderful context. Sex binds two people together, makes them one - it should be treasured and not tarnished. Everytime you give yourself to someone thats just one step further that your binding yourself to that other person and the more people you give of yourself too...the less and less that binding agent the one that God put in place for a man and a women to have this amazing connection drains. Before you know it - there is none left, and when you eventually get married - you get to deal with the fact that your husband and life partner is not the first person you have been with and trust me when I say, there will be strain on a relationship.
Some people believe that having sex is perfectly find once you know you truely love a person, but how can you really know? I believe you can say you love a person while your dating, but you can't fully know that your in love with someone until the relationship has become - forever.
So please, here is my food for thought - with that special someone in your life, show them the highest respect you can and tell them that you love them so much they are worth the wait to you. And try taking a step back, go back to those rituals when you were trying to get there attention - study them, be cute - but most important go back to the holding hands and showing them how much they mean but not through physical attraction, but through the emotional - show them you love them by your actions and words and not through how much "pleasure" you can give them because there are other forms of pleasure that can be much more profound then the physical pleasure that dies down after a time.
That is my random words of wisdom and what has been on my mind.
