What is on my Mind.

So, the last couple of weeks in my life has been crazy. To be honest - our economy SUCKS big time. You know, I remember a time where if you needed a job, you could find work, but because of how bad the economy is - everywhere you go - they are downsizing or just not hiring because they cannot afford more worked (even if they need them).
Well, here I am - a college student - home for the summer and I am having the crappiest time trying to find a job. Also - I am the type of person who likes to have things to do - i HATE sitting around on my butt and doing nothing...but that is what I have to do because of this stupid economy.
Now what I find funny is Obama promised change - do I see change yet? No - I see more and more people not being able to have jobs. This is sad, can no one solve the mess our economy is in?

Now - for the next thing on my mind.
Relationships. Something that I know a thing or two about and something I get asked to help my friends out a lot.
The trend I see in all the questions I get asked lately is - How do I make my relationship not all about the physical? This is such a sad reality, but a lot of relationships are based around physical attraction and that should not be what it is all about.
The biggest reason I believe that relationships have taken this trend is because of the media. It is not a secret that in every form of media - physical attraction sells and everyone gets to be bombared by it, even if they do not want.
So - the natrual thing to do is go along with the trend. How many times have I heard a friend say they were losing the relationship because they weren't giving what their boyfriend/girlfriend wanted. Too many.
For me, relationships are ALWAYS less complicated when physical relations stay at a minimum. Hugging, Kissing, Cuddling, Holding Hands...these are all find ways to show a person you care about them while dating them.
Sadly - these things don't seem to be enough - people are left wanting more... Touching, Trying to turn the other person on...all the way down to sex. Sex I believe should be saved for marriage. From a problem a friend shared with me- They had sex after dating for a "long" time and they thought they were in love, well three months later after adding sex into the mix, the relationship fell apart and my friend was left heartbroken and scared. I never want to see that happen again, but I know it will.
Sex can put so much pressure on a relationship, but that is because people are taking it out of its wonderful context. Sex binds two people together, makes them one - it should be treasured and not tarnished. Everytime you give yourself to someone thats just one step further that your binding yourself to that other person and the more people you give of yourself too...the less and less that binding agent the one that God put in place for a man and a women to have this amazing connection drains. Before you know it - there is none left, and when you eventually get married - you get to deal with the fact that your husband and life partner is not the first person you have been with and trust me when I say, there will be strain on a relationship.
Some people believe that having sex is perfectly find once you know you truely love a person, but how can you really know? I believe you can say you love a person while your dating, but you can't fully know that your in love with someone until the relationship has become - forever.

So please, here is my food for thought - with that special someone in your life, show them the highest respect you can and tell them that you love them so much they are worth the wait to you. And try taking a step back, go back to those rituals when you were trying to get there attention - study them, be cute - but most important go back to the holding hands and showing them how much they mean but not through physical attraction, but through the emotional - show them you love them by your actions and words and not through how much "pleasure" you can give them because there are other forms of pleasure that can be much more profound then the physical pleasure that dies down after a time.

That is my random words of wisdom and what has been on my mind.

Getting through Finals

Hey, so it's finals week and well I know we are all a little stressed. Trust me when I say this though, going into a test stressed is the last thing you want to do because it will put a mental block on everything you studied.
So here is some advice that seems to work to get through finals week:
1. STUDY - do not slack off - actually study - find a group, study alone - but just study.
2. Give yourself some down time - do not obcessivly study your butt off because you'll end up with a massive headache and lack of sleep the next day and thats the last thing you want to happen.
a. so go hang out with friends
b. go on a walk
c. just get out and have some good old FUN!
3. Go to sleep at a decent time - make sure you get between 7-8 hours of sleep before your test, so do not stay up insanely late and only get 5 hours of sleep. Sleep is good - very good.
4. And finally - study in incrimates - take a few hours at a time where you study and then take a break - your brain will love you and you will end up remember the information better.

So - Good luck with the rest of finals to everyone, I am sure everyone will do great and finish out the year amazingly.

Rant on Dating Advice - Part 1

So - a lot of my friends come to me with different problems - but they all have to do with the same thing...DATING!

Now dating isn't a bad thing - but it can bring some interesting situations into your life and well since I have had a lot of text asking for advice - I have some pent up feelings about how people should go about dating and how they should be treated.
Ok, so girls now of days (and even guys - but I mainly deal with girls) who always seem to settle.

Settling is never a good thing because you end up regretting it in the long run and then later on down the road you start to wonder why in the world you let yourself get into a relationship in the first place.

So, for me - I take dating seriously. If I am going to put myself on the rollercoster that is called a relationship - I am going to make sure that the person I am considering dating is someone specially - and not just settling for a guy (or girl) who happens to want to be with me at the time.
Dating is so much more than having a boyfriend or girlfriend - right now I am 19 years old and well I am actually thinking about the rest of my life and as strange as this may be - at 18, I kind of already knew what I wanted from the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
I know that this may be subject to change as I mature - but for the last year - nothing has changed -I still want the same things out of my future partner.

To me - dating is no longer "omg I have a boyfriend and they care about me" and the heartbreaks - but now, dating is looking for that person I am going to have a future with.
So many people now of days don't get this. People take for granted relationships and then they end up getting their heart broken in the end.

So - before dating, ask yourself - how long can I see myself with this person? If you could only see a few months and no more - don't get into it - stay friends and save yourself the heartbreak. If you could see yourself with this person for a year or more - than well dating might be something to consider.

Another thing you may want to consider is do you like the person you are persuing for only their looks- or is there something deeper - do you like them for who they are, their personality.
If you only like them for their looks - STOP, turn around and do not get into a relationship. Your relationship will be based on lust and not love like it is suppose to. Now, do not get my wrong, you should have some physical attraction to the person you are pursueing, but you should love them for who they are and what they have to offer and see their looks as a bonus.

Now - getting off on a slight tangent. Relationships should be based on love. Being lustful towards your boyfriend/girlfriend takes away from the love and in a way taints it. If you truely care about a person you should be able to wait for them - do not rush into things. I mean if you think they might be a person you could spend the rest of your life with - then waiting shouldn't be that bad. Also, its a way to say to a person I love you so much that I can control my lust towards you. Lust is such a bad things and it ruins a lot of relationships because people let it get out of hand. No one said relationships were going to be easy - its hard work for both parties, but if you work together then everything can be accomplished.

Now, this is all I have time to write, plus my words of wisdom are running out. So, I leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
"God gave us two eyes to see, two ears to hear, and two hands to hold, but why only one heart? Because there is another heart out there searching to find yours"

Thoughts on Easter

So, Today is Easter. Have you ever wonder what the meaning behind Easter was? Well if your a Christian, Easter is the day that we remember Jesus Christ rose from the Grave. He defeated Sin and conqured death for our sins. Also, it is the day that we were granted salvation. For this to happen however Jesus first had to go through a trial where he was called a loser - hung on a cross - and died for our sins - even though we are no where near worthy of his sacrifice.
To other religions - I am not sure -and I should probably look that up - but to non-believers, Easter is just another holiday where you can give your children (and yourselves) candy. How did Jesus rising from the dead to conqure our sins - turn into the Easter Bunny - handing out chocolate eggs? Who knows - but I know that today I am going to pay my respects for what my Savior did for me, and for everyone else.
But, for a random thought - it really bothers me the holiday church goers- the ones that only go to church on Chistmas and Easter - is God not important every day? Yes, holidays are a great day to invite new people to church to introduce them to God, but if you only go on holidays - what does that say?
Before I was born - he knew my name, my life -and yet he was still willing to get on that cross and die for me and you. He could have saved himself - but that wouldn't have saved us - he had to die. So, he went through the worst humiliation of his life to save us, so that we may go to Heaven. I don't know about you - but that floors me. Jesus, the SON of GOD - let himself be called a loser, mocked, humiliated, and punished - for our sins. This happens on what we call Good Friday - however I don't know why it is called GOOD friday when that was the day Jesus died? However, I know I am greatful that someone who didn't meet me in person - loved me unconditionally that he died for my salvation and the salvation of all.
So, instead of glorifying the Easter bunny today and looking forward to candy - I am going to look at the cross I wear around my neck and remember what my Lord did for me. It was the ultimate act of Love. Also, I am going to remember that since Jesus could conqure even death - then he can handle any of my problems. He loves us so much that he is willing to walk next to us as we travel.
So, today I re-give my heart back to Jesus, my everything is his. He is my first true love and I am so thankful for the awesome gift he gave to me by his death and his ressurection.
Happy Easter Everyone.